Spotlight: The Enneagram, Relationships and Intimacy2019-11-26T15:57:53-05:00

Spotlight: The Enneagram, Relationships and Intimacy

A Gift of Love for the Holidays
The Book He Cared So Much About Writing…

The Enneagram, Relationships and Intimacy;
Understanding One Another Leads to Loving Better and Living More Fully




In David’s words…

This book addresses the powerful need we have — physiologically, emotionally, and spiritually — for connection, for love.

Choosing to develop our “love-ability,” our capacity to give and receive love, is just about the greatest gift we can offer ourselves and others; it’s at the core of what sustains us and is a pursuit that I have come to cherish over all else.

There are lots of books written on love; some great ones discuss secure attachment and plenty too have been written on relationships and how to make them better. This book on relationships is a different one.

What we have brought to the table is my over 40 years of study as a private-practice psychiatrist (working primarily with couples), my 62 years of marriage, and my deep and comprehensive understanding of human temperament and personality proclivities — thanks to having studied something called, “the Enneagram.” Of all of the treatment modalities I worked with and tried out across my therapeutic career, nothing came close to helping couples heal their hearts and relax their defenses as much as I witnessed happen when working with a comprehensive application of the Enneagram system. This is what this book is about. It’s what has been on my heart for years and what I believe I came here to share.”

Bringing this book to fruition was the passionate focus of much of David’s time, exploration, and thought the last many years of his life and was an honor for Suzanne to see through to completion. Within it holds David and Suzanne’s endearing understanding of human relationships and a devotion to contributing to a more loving world. Learn about…

  • The 9 Enneagram Types: multiple descriptions and Tips for Growth
  • Self-intimacy as the gateway to intimacy with others
  • Attachment – our first love story
  • The contributory ways that we’re wired
  • The Enneagram’s three centers of intelligence and the three mammalian aversive emotional systemsa new approach to understanding the three centers
  • Gender and the Enneagram, a new look, a compassionate perspective
  • What tears us apart?
  • The conditional love of type
  • Nine Enneagram types and sexuality – nine ways we either diminish or enhance intimacy and fulfillment

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Chapters 1, 2, and 3 – Foundations of Love and Relationships
1 — Content and Process, the Basis of Sustainable Understanding, Embodied Learning, and Change
2 — What is Mindfulness? How Does It Impact Me and My Relationships?
3 — The Biology of Relationships: The Anatomy of Love

Chapters 4, 5, and 6 – Self-Love and Understanding Through the Enneagram
4 — Getting to Know Ourselves; Let’s Start with the Enneagram System
5 — How We Are Structured: Three Centers of Intelligence and Three Aversive Emotions
6 — Self-development Using the Enneagram

Chapters 7, 8, and 9 – Deep and Practical Enneagram Insights and Information to Develop Great Relationships
7 — Three Driving Instincts (Enneagram Subtypes) and their Impact on Relationships
8 — Gender, Masculine and Feminine Energies, and the Enneagram
9 — Developing Mindfulness Awareness Calls for a Methodical Process

Chapters 10, 11, 12, 13, and 14 – Using the Enneagram to Develop Healthy, Loving, and Intimate Relationships
10 — What Separates Us from One Another and from Ourselves, From Resistance to Development
11 — Intimacy and Sexuality
12 — Obstacles and Misunderstandings: What’s Impacting our Intimacy?
13 — Insights and Suggestions: Let’s Consciously Impact our Intimacy
14 — Sexual Expression and the Nine Enneagram Types

Chapter 15 – David and Suzanne’s Inspirational Final Words
15 — Closing Thoughts

The Enneagram, Relationships and Intimacy – A Loving Holiday Gift>>


Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. is a clinical professor of psychiatry at the UCLA School of Medicine and executive director of the Mindsight Institute. Dr. Siegel has published extensively for the professional audience, including numerous articles, chapters, and internationally acclaimed books on topics such as mindful awareness, parenting, attachment, relationships, and brain development.
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David Daniels, M.D. (1934 – 2017) a leading developer of the Enneagram and co-founder of the renowned training school, The Narrative Enneagram (TNE), was clinical professor of psychiatry and behavioral sciences at Stanford Medical School. He is co-author of the updated (2009) The Essential Enneagram and devoted the last ten years of his life writing this final book on human intimacy. His passion was human relationships. His purpose was loving kindness. His career — his life, was dedicated to the development of openheartedness, receptivity, and the compassionate acceptance of ourselves, of those we love, and of the world we create with each other.
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Suzanne Dion is an Enneagram teacher, coach, and facilitator certified by Palmer-Daniels, now “The Narrative Enneagram.” For several years she taught incarcerated men and women, and alongside David, for Enneagram Prison Project. Suzanne worked collaboratively with David — his organizations and projects — since 2005. Her current Enneagram work focuses on the healing of childhood trauma at the core of relationships and is dedicated to bringing David’s Enneagram and relationships work to the fore. Suzanne is also a digital multimedia artist, writer, and principal for the ChaelDion Group, a design and marketing communications company. Visit her website: